10 Resources to Support Aging with Independence

At Legacy, we know there is nothing easy about the aging process. Our mission is dedicated to supporting families through this process. Here are 10 great books that can help. If you would like to experience how Residential Assisted Living supports autonomy then set up a visit today and we will give you a free copy of Atul Gawande’s book if you mention this blog post. Call ‭(405) 438-3157 today, before we run out

1. Atul Gawande: Dr. Atul Gawande is a surgeon and author known for his books "Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End" and "The Checklist Manifesto." In "Being Mortal," he discusses how to improve the quality of life for the elderly and enhance their independence, even in the face of serious illness and aging.

2. Oliver Sacks: The late Dr. Oliver Sacks was a neurologist and author known for his compassionate and informative writings on neurological conditions. His book "The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat" and "Awakenings" explore the human condition, including aging and its challenges.

3. Marc Agronin: Dr. Marc Agronin is a psychiatrist and author of "How We Age: A Doctor's Journey into the Heart of Growing Old." He provides insights into the psychological aspects of aging and strategies for maintaining independence and quality of life.

4. Atul Singhal: Dr. Atul Singhal is a pediatrician and author of "The Healthy Aging Brain: Sustaining Attachment, Attaining Wisdom." He explores the importance of social connections and mental stimulation in aging gracefully.

5. Patti Davis: Patti Davis, the daughter of former U.S. President Ronald Reagan, wrote "The Long Goodbye," a memoir about her father's battle with Alzheimer's disease. This book provides a personal perspective on caregiving and the challenges of aging.

6. Michael Gurian: Michael Gurian is a psychotherapist and author of "The Wonder of Aging: A New Approach to Embracing Life After Fifty." He offers insights into the emotional and psychological aspects of aging and how to maintain a sense of purpose and vitality.

7. John C. Robinson: Dr. John C. Robinson is an author and psychologist known for books like "The Three Secrets of Aging" and "What Aging Men Want: The Odyssey as a Parable of Male Aging." He focuses on the spiritual and emotional dimensions of aging.

8. Joy Loverde: Joy Loverde is the author of "Who Will Take Care of Me When I'm Old?: Plan Now to Safeguard Your Health and Happiness in Old Age." She provides practical advice on planning for independence in old age.

9. Jane Gross: Jane Gross, a journalist and author, wrote "A Bittersweet Season: Caring for Our Aging Parents - and Ourselves." Her book addresses the challenges of caregiving and aging and offers practical solutions.

These authors cover a range of topics related to aging, from medical and psychological aspects to caregiving and planning for the future. Their works can provide valuable guidance for individuals and families seeking to maintain independence and quality of life as they age.

9 Things YOU can do starting TODAY to age in the comfort of home

Our vision at Legacy Senior Living is to transform the aging process through the comfort of home. We have found most people want to age in the comfort of their homes. As a family, it’s important that we support each other to navigate this process. If we don’t have a plan then we are taking the risk of higher care costs that can lead to significant health problems for you. Here are some sobering statistics from the CDC for family members who serve as a primary caregiver to a loved one: https://www.cdc.gov/aging/caregiving/caregiver-brief.html. Just like the flight attendants always instruct it’s important to have a plan to put on your oxygen mask so you can support your loved one through the aging process. Additionally, waiting too long for professional help can lead to higher care cost from either an unexpected fall or the requirement of 1 on 1 care because your loved one doesn’t understand their new environment. Here are 9 ideas that can help you craft a plan that is right for your family.

Each of the 9 ideas below is written with the intention to help you create a safe space. It’s important to foster an environment where conversations flow freely and without judgment. Gather your loved ones for an open dialogue, and set a time to share thoughts and concerns. Each of these concepts can require multiple conversations. Establishing trust is paramount and be thoughtful to include everyone so their wishes are valued and respected. Don’t hesitate to involve professional counselors if you need support. Please call us at ‭(405) 438-3157‬ if you need a list of counselors we have worked with in Oklahoma City.

1. Express Concern and Interest: Start gently by expressing your genuine concern for your loved one’s well-being. Share your observations, emphasizing that you are here to support and understand their needs. This paves the way for deeper conversations regarding their preferences and aspirations.

2. Talk about Health and Future Care: Approach the topic of health and future care with empathy. Encourage your loved one to share their thoughts on health concerns, medical preferences, and possible scenarios. Discuss their wishes for potential caregiving arrangements, ensuring their voices guide the decisions.

3. Address Financial Matters: Delicately broach the subject of financial planning. Inquire about their wishes for estate planning, wills, and financial resources. Offer assistance in finding reputable professionals who can provide guidance on these matters. You are never to early to start thinking about transitioning your active income into wealth. If you are looking for resources to support this connect with a local professional or visit www.BMDInvest.com for more information.

4. Explore Living Arrangements: Engage in conversations about living arrangements as they age. Respectfully discuss options such as staying at home with modifications, moving to a retirement community, touring residential and other assisted living options, or seeking in-home caregiving support. Their comfort and preferences should guide the discussion.

5. Celebrate Memories and Legacy: Take time to celebrate the beautiful memories you've shared as a family. Encourage storytelling and reminiscing. This is an opportunity for your loved ones to share their life stories, values, and dreams, helping to create a lasting legacy.

6. Assess Activities of Daily Living: In a loving and non-intrusive manner, inquire about their abilities to handle daily tasks. Ask about their comfort levels with activities like cooking, bathing, and managing medications. This conversation can lead to exploring potential assistance or adjustments.

7. Discuss Emotional Well-being: Aging can bring emotional challenges. Engage in conversations about their emotional well-being, stressors, and coping strategies. Encourage open expression of feelings, and be ready to provide resources for mental health support if needed.

8. Plan for Enjoyment and Fulfillment: Highlight the importance of continuing to pursue passions and interests. Discuss activities your loved one enjoys and ways to stay engaged socially. Encourage them to set new goals and embark on fulfilling adventures.

9. Regular Check-ins: Keep the lines of communication open with regular check-ins. Show your unwavering support by consistently showing up, listening, and adjusting plans as needed.

These conversations may not always be easy, but they are essential. Just as we have navigated life's challenges with resilience, families must embrace this phase with the same unwavering determination. By engaging in heartfelt conversations, we pave the way for a future where our loved ones age with dignity, surrounded by the love and support they deserve. Give us a call if you ever need any resources along the way.

~ Katie